Self-care was one of those things I never really prioritized until I desperately needed it. It wasn’t until after Wyatt was born that I really started to make the effort to take care of myself. I think that women by nature give so much. We are often so busy caring for others needs that we suppress our own. Additionally, we are always thinking about what needs to be done or improved upon. I know for myself I am just as concerned with my family’s emotional needs as I am with their physical needs. I do this habitually, and I will keep obsessing over them until I reach a point of mental and physical exhaustion . It’s a difficult pattern to break- but as I soon learned, if I did not break the cycle of giving to the point of depletion, than the cycle would eventually break me.
Ambiance is EVERYTHING.
I decided after prolonged, self-induced suffering that I would deliberately take time out of my week, putting guilt and comparison aside to take better care of myself. I realized that I needed it for myself just as much as my family needed it from me. The calmer and happier I was, the calmer and happier my family became. We women need to give ourselves a little more credit. We keep everything together. Especially housewives, single moms, and stay-at-home moms. We are the oil in the gears. And what happens when we run out of oil? Everything freezes up and our lives grind to a halt.
If there is any wisdom that I can pass on so that other women can benefit and grow, it is this: ask for what you need. Communicate with someone you care about, and let them know when you need to recharge. I let my pride prevent me from asking for help for so long. I felt the need to prove my worth to my family, and especially my husband. I thought if I stopped that I would appear weak. I could not have been farther from the truth. Don’t let that happen to you. Invest in some quiet time alone to refocus, recharge, and relax. You will not regret it, and neither will your loved ones.
One night a week I invest sometime in myself to recharge.
Light candles. Draw a hot bath. Play soft music. Read a book. The Book of Psalms is my favorite for these special nights.
Think about your goals and desires. Pray about your part in God’s plan for you as a woman and as a servant.
Detox Bath Recipe
2 cups epsom salts
1 cup baking soda
1 tbsp jojoba oil (or other oil of choice)
5 drops essential oil or choice (I use lavender, ylang ylang, chamomile, patchouli, or frankincense).
Soak for 30 min. Enjoy a glass of water with lemon or some herbal tea.
Anti-inflammatory Facial Recipe
2 tbsp raw honey
1 tsp ground cinnamon
1 tsp ground nutmeg
Mix into thick paste. Apply to face using gentle circular motion. Allow to sit 15-30 min. Rinse completely and apply argan oil (or oil of choice).
Stare at you feet and ponder the meaning of life.
“He refreshes my soul. He guides me along the right paths for his name’s sake.” Psalm 23:3